When you clean your life up the best you can.
When you have moved further from where you are in your life right now, people will say whatever they want and you won't pay any attention at all because you don't live there anymore.
The feelings you have are yours, they are in reponse to what someone says or does. What they say or do is theirs.
Do you ever wonder how there could be so many people on your side, but that one will say or do whatever and it wrecks your mind and day. That's because somewhere inside you, you believe there is some truth there, forcing you to deal with the suspect feelings you still have about yourself and your choices so far.
You are fantastically brave beyond your years and have endured much. There are two ways to look at that statement.
From the place you always have or....jump ahead to a new place and practice it from there.
All people have lived nightmares of some sort. We can't understand them all. There are people that choose not to not to do the work it takes inside themselves to make this change. There are as many reasons as there are people. We have to allow people to make the choices they need to wether we judge it to be a good one or not.

Thank you God for not letting me live their nightmare and thank you God for relieving mine for today. Please help me to know when to help someone who suffers and when to let them make their own choices. Please relieve me from my bondage of self that I might not judge another so I don't react with feelings that are contrary to the knowledge that I am capable, loving and forgiving. I understand with these atributes I am capable of doing miracles in my life and for others. Aho